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Thursday, August 28, 2014

Ali Hujwiri (Data Ganj Bakhsh)

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Hazrat Syed Hafiz Haji Abu’l Hasan Bin Usman Bin Ali Al-Jalabi Al-Hujwiri (ra) (also spelled Hujweri, Hajweri, Hajveri, Hajvery) also known as Data Ganj Bakhsh (the master who bestows treasures) or Data Sahib was a great Persian Sufi scholar, writer and poet who lived during the 5th Century AH (11th Century AD). He significantly contributed to the spreading of Islam in South Asia.

Lineage and Family

Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) was both a Hasani and Husseini Syed.
He was blessed with direct lineage to the Holy Prophet ﷺ through his father who was a direct descendant of Hazrat Imam Hasan Ra.gif, son of Hazrat Ali Ra.gif. His silsila-e-nasab (family lineage) is as follows:
  • Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Mohammad Usman (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Abu’l Hasan Ali (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Abdur Rahman (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Shah Shuja (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Abu’l Hasan Ali (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Hasan Asghar (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Zaid (ra), son of
  • Hazrat Imam Hasan Ra.gif, son of
  • Hazrat Ali Ra.gif.
Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) was the ninth descendant of Hazrat Ali Ra.gif. After the tragedy of Karbala, many of the descendants of Hazrat Ali Ra.gifdispersed to foreign lands and among them were the forefathers of Hazrat Ali Hujveri who migrated to the Ghaznavid Empire, which is now modern-day Afghanistan.
Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) was also blessed with direct lineage to the Holy Prophet ﷺ through his mother who was a descendant of Hazrat Imam Hussein Ra.gif. His mother was greatly devoted to religious worship and was committed to bettering the welfare of the poor and the suffering.
His maternal uncle was highly respected and had the title of "Tajul Auliya". Adjacent to the mausoleum of Hazrat Tajul Auliya lays the mausoleum belonging to the mother of Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra).
Although the family lived in fairly affluent circumstances, they were held in high esteem for their piety and religious devotion.

Birth

Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) was born in the city of Ghazni during the reign of Mahmud of Ghazni where his family had settled. He was known as Ali Al-Jalabi Al-Hujwiri (ra), as he had lived in Jalab and Hujwir, two different quarters (Mohallas) within the city of Ghazni.
The exact date of Hazrat Ali Hujwiri's (ra) birth is not known, with estimates ranging from 400 AH to 406AH. Little is known of his early life or his education.  

Travels

After having completed his studies, he travelled extensively in order to acquire knowledge from well-known scholars as well as to pay homage to saints. He is reported to have travelled for forty years, during which he always offered his Friday prayers in congregation.
He travelled to Syria, Iraq, Persia, Kohistan, Azerbaijan, Tabaristan, Kerman, Khorasan, Transoxiana amongst other places and met several prominent Sufis of the time. In Khorasan alone he is reported to have met 300 Sufis. He relates in Kashf-ul-Mahjoob:
It would be difficult to mention all the Sheikhs of Khorasan. I have met over three hundred saints in Khorasan alone residing separately and who had such mystical endowments that a single one of them would have been enough for the whole world. They are the luminaries of love and prosperity on the spiritual sky of Khorasan.
After the acquisition of academic knowledge in the fields of his search, he diverted his energy in quest of an accomplished spiritual teacher (Murshid-e-Kamil). He travelled great distances in search of a personality who could satiate his thirst for spirituality, rather than mere academic superficial knowledge. Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) states in Kashf-ul-Mahjoob:
Theologians have made no distinction between 'ilm (knowledge) and ma'rifat (gnosis), except when they say that God may be called 'alim (knowing), but not 'arif (gnostic), since the latter description lacks Divine blessing. The Sufi Sheikhs give the name of ma’rifat (gnosis) to knowledge that includes both religious practices and states; the knower of which could express his state they would call ‘arif (gnostic).
On the other hand, they give the name of 'ilm (knowledge) to every knowledge that is devoid of spiritual and religious practice, and one who has such knowledge they call 'alim (knowing).
One, then, who knows the meaning and reality of a thing they call 'arif, and one who knows merely the verbal expression and keeps it in his memory without keeping the spiritual reality they call 'alim. For this reason, when the Sufis wish to criticize a rival they call him danishmand (possessing knowledge). This seems objectionable, but the Sufis do not intend to blame the man for having acquired knowledge, rather they blame him for neglecting the practice of religion, because the 'alim depends on himself, but the 'arif depends on his Lord.

Initiation into the Sufi Order

Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) was accepted as a murid (spiritual disciple) by Hazrat Sheikh Abu’l Fadl Muhammad bin Al-Hasan Al-Khuttali (ra). His silsila (spiritual chain) is traced back to the Beloved Prophet ﷺ as follows:
  • Hazrat Sheikh Ali Hujwiri (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Abu’l Fadl Al-Khuttali (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Abu’l Hasan al-Husri (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Abu Bakr Abdullah Shibli (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Junaid al-Baghdadi (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Abu’l Hasan Sari al-Saqati (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Maruf al-Karkhi (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Dawood Taa'ee (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Habib al-Ajami (ra), disciple of
  • Hazrat Sheikh Hasan al-Basri (ra), disciple of
  • Sayyidina Ali ibn Abi Talib Ra.gif, Khalifa of
  • Sayyidina Muhammad ibn Abdillah, ﷺ
Hazrat Sheikh Al-Khuttali (ra) is described by Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) in Kashf-ul-Mahjoob:
He is the teacher whom I follow in Sufism. He was versed in the science of Quranic exegesis and in traditions (riwayat). In Sufism he follows the doctrine of Junayd. He was a disciple of Husri and a companion of Sirawani, and a contemporary of Abu Amr Qazwini and Abu'l- Hasan bin Saliba. He spent sixty years in sincere retirement from the world, for the most part on Mount Lukam. He displayed many signs and proofs (of Saintship), but he did not wear the garb or adopt the external fashions of the Sufis, and he used to treat formalists with severity. I never saw any man who inspired me with greater awe than he did.
It is related that he said: ‘The world is but a single day, in which we are fasting, i.e. we get nothing from it, and are not occupied with it, because we have perceived its corruption and its "veils" and have turned our backs upon it.’
Once I was pouring water on his hands in order that he might purify himself. The thought occurred to me: ‘Since everything is predestined, why should free men make themselves the slaves of spiritual guides?" The Sheikh said: ‘ O my son, I know what you are thinking. Be assured that there is a cause for every decree of Providence. When Allah wishes to bestow a crown and a kingdom on an ordinary man, He gives him repentance and employs him in the service of one of His friends, in order that this service leads him to nobility and honour."
Many such fine sayings he uttered to me every day.
He died at Bayt al-Jinn, a village situated at the head of a mountain pass between Baniyas and the river of Damascus. While he was counting last breaths, his head was resting on my bosom. At that time I was feeling hurt, as it is the nature of man to feel sad on departure of his close associate. The Sheikh said to me:
‘O my son, I will tell you one article of belief which if you firmly follow, will deliver you from all troubles. Whatever good or evil Allah creates, do not in any place or circumstance quarrel with His action or feel aggrieved in your heart.'
He gave no further injunction, but yielded up his soul.
Other teachers and Sheikhs associated with Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) are:
Abu’l-Abbas Ahmad bin Muhammad al-Ashqani (ra) (or al-Shaqani)
Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) describes him:
He was an Imam in every branch of fundamental and derivative sciences of religion, and an accomplished venerable in all respects. He had met a great number of eminent Sufi Sheikhs. He is counted among the eminent Imams and Sheikhs. His doctrine was based on ‘annihilation’ (fana), and his expressions used to be highly complex. Some fools imitated him and have adopted his difficult writing style. When in its spiritual meaning it is not laudable to imitate then how it is right to imitate a mere expression! I was very intimate with him, and he had also a sincere affection for me. He was my teacher in some sciences. In my whole life I have never seen anyone, who held the Shariat in greater veneration than him. He kept himself detached from all created things.
Because of his complicated writings on account of the subtlety of his theological expositions only an Imam of profound insight could derive instruction from him. He always had a natural disgust of this world and the next, and would constantly exclaim, ‘I yearn for a non-existence that has no existence.’ And he used to say:
‘Every man desires for impossible, and I too have desire for impossible, which I surely know will never be realized, namely that Allah should take me to a non-existence that will never return to existence, for stations and miracles are all veils and troubles and the man is becoming a suitor of his own veil. It is better to get annihilated in vision than being remain in constant state of veil. Almighty Allah is a Being that is not subject to none being, what loss would His kingdom suffer if I become a nonentity that shall never be endowed with existence?’
This is a sound principle in a real annihilation.
Abu’l-Qasim bin Ali bin Abdullah al-Gurgani (ra)
He was unique and incomparable Qutb of his time. His initial state was excellent and strong. He performed long journeys with conscientious observance (of Shariat). All the aspirants of his time were whole heartedly inclined to him and seekers of the path of Truth had full faith on him. He possessed marvellous power of revealing the inwardly states of novices (kashf-i waq'a-i muridan). He was well learned in various branches of knowledge. All his disciples because of their knowledge and conduct are ornaments of the society in which they move. God willing, he will have an excellent successor, whose authority the whole body of Sufis will recognize, namely, Abu Ali al-Fadl b. Muhammad al-Farmadhi who has fully committed himself to the service of his Sheikh and has turned his back on all (worldly) things. Through the blessings of that (renunciation), Allah has made him the spiritual mouthpiece (zaban-i hal) of that venerable Sheikh.
Abu Ahmad Muzaffar bin Ahmad bin Hamdan (ra)
Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) describes an interesting experience pertaining to Qawwali in Kashf-ul-Mahjoob:
One day I came into his presence, when the weather was extremely hot, wearing a traveller's dress and with my hair in disorder. He said to me: ‘Tell me what you wish at this moment.’ I replied that I wished to hear some music (sama). He immediately sent for a singer (qawwal) and a number of musicians. Being young and enthusiastic and filled with the ardour of a novice, I became deeply excited as the strains of the music fell on my ear.
After a while, when my ecstasy subsided, he asked me how I liked it. I told him that I had enjoyed it very much. He said:
‘A time will come when this music will be no more to you than the croaking of a raven. The influence of music only lasts so long as there is no contemplation, and as soon as contemplation is attained, music has no power. Take care not to accustom yourself to this, lest it grow part of your nature and keep you back from higher things.’
Abu’l Qasim Abdul Karim Bin Hawazin al-Qushayri (ra)
In his time he was a wonder. His rank is high and his position is great, and his spiritual life and manifold virtues are well known to the people of the present age. He is the author of many fine sayings and exquisite works, all of them profoundly theosophical, in every branch of science. Allah rendered his feelings and his tongue secure from anthropomorphism (hashw). I have heard that he said:
‘The Sufi is like the disease called birsam, which begins with delirium and ends in silence; for when the disease sets in, you are dumb."
Sufism has two sides: ecstasy (wajd) and visions (numud). Visions belong to novices, and the expression of such visions is delirium (hadhayan). Ecstasy belongs to adepts, and the expression of ecstasy, while the ecstasy continues, is impossible. So long as they are only seekers they utter lofty aspirations, which seem delirium even to those who aspire (ahl-i himmal), but when they have attained, they cease, and no more express anything either by word or sign. Similarly, since Moses was a beginner (mubtadi) all his desire was for vision of Allah; he expressed his desire and said, ‘My Lord, show me [Yourself] that I may look at You.’ (7:139). This expression of an unattained desire seemed like delirium. Our Apostle, however, was an adept (muntahi) and firmly established (mutamakkin). When his person arrived at the station of desire, his desire was annihilated and he said, ‘I cannot praise Thee duly.’

Arrival in Lahore

One night Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) saw his spiritual guide and teacher Hazrat Sheikh Abu’l Fadl Al-Khuttali in a dream saying to him: "O, my son! we have appointed you as the qutb of Lahore. Be prepared and start forthwith for Lahore." He replied, "Your Holiness has already appointed Khwaja Hasan Zanjani as the qutb of Lahore. What is the need for this humble being in his presence there? What is the importance, significance, and implication of the order of your holiness?" Thereupon his spiritual guide and teacher said: "O my son! Do not argue with me and leave for Lahore without loss of time."
Around 431 AH, in the reign of Mahmud Ghaznavi, he left Ghazni for Lahore along with Hazrat Abu Saeed Hujwiri (ra) and Hazrat Ahmad Hammadi Sarkhasi (ra). Hazrat Abu Saeed Hujwiri (ra) was a fellow townsman of Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) and the book Kashf-ul-Mahjoob was written in accordance to his request. Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) says regarding Hazrat Ahmad Hammadi Sarkhasi (ra):
Khwaja Ahmad Hammadi Sarkhasi was the falcon of his time. For some time we remained together and I witnessed many wondrous experiences from him. He was a man of the path of the Shariat.
When he had reached the outskirts of the city, it had grown dark. He stayed outside the city and entered it in the morning. To his great surprise, he saw a funeral. On his inquiring, he learnt that it was the funeral of Hazrat Sheikh Khwaja Hasan Zanjani (ra), who had passed away the previous night. He led the funeral prayers.

Miracle in Lahore

After he had permanently settled in Lahore, he constructed a monastery for himself and also a mosque. When the mosque was under construction, the Ulama of the city raised a storm of opposition to the effect that the mosque was not exactly aligned towards the Qibla. He remained unconcerned about this opposition and objection. When the mosque was complete he invited the Ulama, Sufis, saints, and leading citizens to it and they all offered prayers behind him. After the prayers were over, he addressed all those present, saying: "People have expressed doubt concerning the alignment of the mosque. I request you to close your eyes and meditate and then decide whether it is correct or not." Thereafter he meditated and the curtains were removed from the eyes of the people. All of them saw that the sacred Ka'ba was before their eyes and that the mosque direction had been correctly aligned.
He spent the rest of his days there guiding, teaching, and inspiring the people and preaching and propagating the doctrine of truth. Thousands of unlettered persons became alims, hoards of people accepted Islam, the misguided began to follow the Path, the insane recovered reason and sanity, the imperfect became perfect (in knowledge) and the sinners became virtuous under the influence of Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra).
One of the earlier converts was one Rai Raju, the Naib (Viceroy) of Lahore during the time of Sultan Maudood. On conversion to Islam he was named Sheikh Hindi. His descendants have been since that time the custodians of the mausoleum.

Passing On

Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) is said to have passed away on the twentieth of the month of Rabi-ul-Awwal 465 AH although the date, month and year are all conjectural. Others have estimated his passing on to have occurred between 481 AH and 500 AH.
His Urs takes place on the twentieth and the twenty-first of Safar every year.

Respect of Great Sufis towards Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra)

Khwaja Moinuddin Chishti (ra)

Khwaja Moinuddin Chishti (ra), the great saint of Ajmer, came to Lahore to meditate for forty days at the sacred alter of Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) and after receiving spiritual enlightenment; Khwaja Moinuddin Chishti (ra) expressed his gratitude and out of love and devotion uttered the following couplet whilst in an ecstatic trance:

Ganj Bakhsh-e faiz-e aalam, mazhar-e nur-i KhudaNaqisaan ra pir-e kaamil, kaamilaan ra rahnuma

An attempted translation of this inspiring couplet:
The giver of bounties, the benefactor of the world [and] manifestation of the light of God,
To the imperfect, a perfect spiritual guide, and to the perfect, a guide.

It is from this time that Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra), came to be known as Data Ganj Bakhsh (the master who bestows treasures/bounties).

Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani (ra)

It is stated that Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani (ra) during one of his gatherings said,
I, Abdul Qadir, would have taken him as my Spiritual Guide if I was born in his time.
Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani (ra) also stated,
Data Ganj Bakhsh is a lion of Sufism and one must go to him with utmost respect.

Works

Kashf-ul-Mahjoob

Kashf-ul-Mahjoob (Revelation of Mystery) is held in high esteem as the first important treatise on Sufism. Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) was a prolific writer, perceptive and discriminating in his choice of topics.
Kashf-ul-Mahjoob was written in response to the request of his fellow townsman Hazrat Abu Saeed Hujwiri (ra) who put the following questions to him:
  • Explain the true meaning of the Path of Sufism.
  • Explain the nature of the stations' (maqamat) of the Sufis, their doctrines and sayings and make clear their mystical allegories.
  • Explain how the love of Allah and ecstasy overwhelm the hearts.
  • Explain why the intellect is incapable to perceive the reality of the Truth.
  • Explain why the nafs (lower soul) is reluctant to attain the proximity of the Truth and how the spirit gets enrichment and life thereof.
  • Explain the doctrine, sayings and the practical aspects of Sufism which are connected with these theories.
Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) starts the reply with the following, regarding the current status of Sufism:
Sufism is obsolete in our age and particularly in this country (India) where majority of the people is captivated with worldly lust. They have turned away their faces from being satisfied with the decree of the Truth. The divines and those who pretend to have knowledge of the path have formed a conception of Sufism which is conflicting to its basics.
The object of the book seems to set forth a complete system of Sufism, and the author’s attitude throughout remains that of a teacher instructing a student.
It will not be a boasting opinion to mention Kashf-ul-Mahjoob as the primary source on the laws of mysticism. It elaborates all the stages of the Path of Sufism in such a manner that in the words of the author the seeker studying and following the book would not need the auspicious guidance of a Sheikh (spiritual guide). He has touched upon the doctrines held by the different sects of Sufis, in which he enumerates special doctrine of each.
The work has always been applauded by majority of the theologians and Sheikhs representing different schools of thought and it has been always a source of excellent guidance to the seekers of the Path. It leads one to straight path and mind of the seeker is enlightened with the purity of Shariat and reality of the Truth and he feels independent of any doubt or uncertainty.
The great saint Hazrat Nizamuddin Auliya (ra) said regarding the book:
...one who does not have a Sheikh may study the Kashf-ul-Mahjoob, [not only will he receive guidance but eventually] through the blessing that God has kept in this book, one will find one's Sheikh.

Other Works

Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) wrote a few more books but he himself mentions in Kashf-ul-Mahjoob that they were stolen by other people. He says:
I have already written few books on this subject, but all these efforts of mine went in vain as some pretenders picked out selected passages from them to impress their followers as it was their work and they destroyed rest of the works. This sort of people considers such sadism and denial as Allah’s blessing. Some did occupy themselves willingly but failed to gain anything from it. Some gained the knowledge of works, but did not comprehend the meaning. Such people only like the expressions thereof and think that the memorization and copying of such expression is the Sufism. This is their misfortune.

Mausoleum

The shrine is located near the Bhaati Gate into Lahore's Walled City. It was originally built by the Ghaznavi king Sultan Zakiruddin Ibrahim in the late 11th century and has been expanded several times. Adjoining the porch is a mosque, an extension of the one which Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) had built during his lifetime. In front of it is the gate of a small room (Hujra) where Hazrat Khwaja Moinudeen Chisti performed his meditation (Muraqaba) for forty days. To the west of the tomb is the courtyard for the reciters of Quran.
The tomb of Ali Hujwiri is built on a white marble chabutra. In the centre is the tomb of Hazrat Ali Hujwiri (ra) which is accompanied by the resting places of Hazrat Ahmad Hammadi Sarkhasi (ra) and Hazrat Abu Saeed Hujwiri (ra) who had both accompanied him to Lahore from Ghazni.


Wednesday, August 27, 2014

The Virtues and Rights of Marriage

1. It is mentioned in a Hadith that this world has been created to be utilised and that of all the things that are utilised in this world, there is nothing better than a pious woman. In other words, if a person is fortunate enough to get a pious wife, it will be a great blessing. It is also a mercy from Allah Ta'ala that she is actually a comfort for the husband and a means for his success in this world and in the hereafter. A person enjoys comfort from such a woman for his worldly needs and she also assists him in fulfilling his religious duties.
2. It is mentioned in a Hadith that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said "Marriage is my way and my sunnah." "The one who does not act upon my sunnah is not of me." That is, there is no relationship between him and me. This is actually a warning and a threat to the one who does not practice on the sunnah and a mention of Rasulullah's sallallahu alayhi wa sallam anger on such a person. It is therefore necessary to be extremely cautious in this regard. Furthermore, how can a Muslim bear to have Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam displeased with him for even a moment. May Allah Ta'ala grant us death before that day comes when a Muslim is able to bear the displeasure of Allah and His Rasûl sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said "Marry so that I can be proud (of your numbers) on the day of judgement over the other nations." In other words, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam likes his ’ummah to be in large numbers and more than the other nations. If this happens, his ’ummah will be carrying out more good deeds, and in so doing he will receive more rewards and gain closer proximity to Allah Ta'ala. This is because whoever from his ’ummah does good deeds, does so through his teachings. Therefore, the more people who act on his teachings, the more reward he will receive for conveying those teachings. We also learn from this that whenever and however possible, we should undertake to carry out those tasks and actions that will take us closer to Allah Ta'ala, and that we should not display any laziness in this regard.
It is mentioned in a Hadith that on the day of judgement the people will be standing in 120 lines. Out of these, 40 lines of people will be from the other nations while 80 lines of people will be from the ’ummah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Glory be to Allah! How beloved Rasulullahsallallahu alayhi wa sallam is to Him.
The one who is able to (fulfil the rights of a wife) should marry. As for the one who does not have sufficient wealth (to fulfil the rights of a wife), he should fast. That is, he should fast so that there will be a decrease in his desires. Fasting is actually a means of curbing his desires. If a person does not have a very dire need for women, and instead has an average need, and he is able to pay for her basic necessities, then nikah is sunnat-e-mu’akkadah for such a person. As for the person who has a very urgent need, nikah will be fard upon him. This is because there is a fear that he will commit adultery and thereby get the sin of committing a haram act. If a person has a very urgent need but is financially incapable of maintaining a wife, then such a person must fast abundantly. Later, when he has sufficient funds to maintain a wife, he must get married.
3. It is mentioned in a Hadith that children are the flowers of jannah. This means that the amount of joy and happiness one will experience on seeing the flowers of paradise, that same amount of joy and happiness is experienced when he looks at his children. And we know fully well that children can only be obtained through marriage.
4. It is mentioned in a Hadith that when the status of a person is increased in jannah, he asks out of wonder "How did I receive all this?" (That is, "How did I receive such a high status when I hadn't carried out so many good deeds to deserve such a status?") It will be said to this person that this high status is on account of your children asking for forgiveness on your behalf. In other words, your children had asked for forgiveness on your behalf. In return for that, you have been accorded this status.
5. It is mentioned that the child who is born out of a miscarriage (i.e. it is born before the due date) will "fight"(wrangle) with its Creator when its parents are entered into jahannam. In other words, this child will go to extremes in interceding on behalf of its parents and will ask Allah Ta'ala to remove its parents from jahannam. Through His bounty, Allah Ta'ala will accept the intercession of this child and He will be soft and lenient towards it. It will be said to this child "O siqt (which means, miscarried foetus) who is quarrelling with its Lord! Enter your parents into jannah." So this child will draw its parents out of jahannam with its navel cord and enter both of them into jannah. We learn from this, that children of this sort, who are actually a by-product of marriage, will also be of help in the hereafter.
6. It is mentioned in a Hadith that when the husband and wife look at each other (with love), Allah Ta'ala looks at both of them with mercy.
7. It is mentioned in a Hadith that Allah Ta'ala has taken it upon Himself (i.e. out of His mercy, He as taken the responsibility) of helping the person who gets married in order to attain purity from that which Allah has made haram. In other words, the person who marries in order to save himself from adultery with the intention of obeying Allah Ta'ala, Allah will help and assist him in his expenses and other affairs.
8. It is mentioned in a Hadith that two rakats of salat performed by a married person is better than 82 rakats performed by an unmarried person. In another Hadith, 70 rakats have been mentioned instead of 82 rakats. It is possible that this means that 70 rakats are written in favour of the person who fulfils the necessary rights of his wife and family, and that 82 rakats are in favour of the person who apart from fulfilling their necessary rights, serves them more with his life, wealth and good habits.
9. It is mentioned in a Hadith that it is a major sin for a person to be neglectful with regard to those whom he is responsible for (and to have shortcomings in fulfilling their needs).
10. It is mentioned in a Hadith that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said "I have not left behind any test and tribulation on men more harmful than women." In other words, of all the things that are harmful for men, women are the most harmful. This is because, out of his love for a woman, a man loses all his senses, so much so that he does not even take the commands and orders of Allah Ta'ala into consideration. Therefore, a person must not fall in love with a woman in such a way that he has to act contrary to the ShariAh. For example, her demands for her food and clothing are more than what the husband can afford. In such circumstances, never accept any bribes in order to supplement your present income. Instead, give her from the halal earnings which Allah Ta'ala has blessed you with. You should continue teaching your womenfolk and inculcate respect and good manners in them. Do not allow them to become impudent and disrespectful. The intellect of women is deficient; it is therefore incumbent to take special measures in reforming them.
11. It is mentioned in a Hadith that you should not propose to a girl when your fellow Muslim brother has already proposed to her until he gets married or gives up this proposal. In other words, when a person has sent a proposal to a particular family and there is a likelihood of their replying in the affirmative, another person should not send a proposal to that same family. However, if they reject this first person, or he himself changes his mind, or they are not too happy with him and are still hesitant in giving a reply, it will be permissible for another person to send a proposal for the same girl.
The same rule applies to the transactions of buying and selling. That is, if a person is busy buying or selling something, then as long as they do not separate or abandon the transaction, another person should not enter into their transaction and should not offer a price above or below that which has been already offered when there is an indication that they are about to come to an agreement. Understand this well, and know that a kafir is also included in this rule.
12. It is mentioned in a Hadith that a woman is either married because of her Din, her wealth or her beauty. Choose the one with Din, may your hands become dusty. In other words, a man may prefer a woman who is religiously inclined. While another may prefer one who is wealthy. While yet another may prefer one who is beautiful. However, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that one should choose a religiously inclined woman and that it is preferable to marry such a woman. However, if the circumstances are such that a woman is very pious but at the same time she is so ugly that one's nature does not find her acceptable and there is a fear that if he marries such a woman there will be no mutual understanding between them, and that he will be neglectful in fulfilling her rights, then in such a case he should not marry such a woman. "May your hands become dusty" is an Arabic mode of expression which is used on different occasions. In this context, it is meant to create a yearning and a desire for a pious woman.
13. It is mentioned in a Hadith that the best wife is one whose mahr is very simple. That is, it is very easy for the man to fulfil her mahr. These days, there is the habit of specifying a very high mahr. People should abstain from this.
14. It is mentioned in a Hadith that you should look for a good place for your sperms because a woman gives birth to children that resemble her brothers and sisters. In other words, marry a woman who comes from a pious and noble family because the children generally resemble the maternal relations. Although the father also has some influence over the child's resemblance, we learn from this Hadith that the mother's influence is greater. If the wife is from a disreputable and irreligious family, the children who will be born will be similar to that family. But if this is not so, then the children who will be born will be pious and religious.
15. It is mentioned in a Hadith that the greatest right that a woman has to fulfil is to her husband, and that the greatest right that he has to fulfil is to his mother. In other words, after the rights of Allah and His Rasûl sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the woman has a very great right to fulfil to her husband, so much so that the husband's rights supersede the rights of her parents. As for the man, after the rights of Allah and His Rasûl sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the greatest right that he has to fulfil is to his mother. We learn from this that the right of the mother supersedes that of the father.
16. It is mentioned in a Hadith that if anyone of you wishes to engage in sexual intercourse with his wife, he should recite the following duA:
The virtue of this duA is that if a child is conceived through this intercourse, shaytan will not be able to harm this child in any way.
17. There is a lengthy Hadith in which Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam addressed Abdur Rahman bin Auf radiyallahu anhu asking him to have awalimah even if it is with one sheep. In other words, even if you possess very little, you should spend. It is preferable to have the walimah after engaging in sexual intercourse with one's bride. However, many ulama have permitted it immediately after the nikah as well. It is mustahab to have a walimah.

Explanation of Islamic Terms

Alim:  One who has attained a considerable amount of Islamic knowledge. He could also be referred to as an Islamic scholar.
Barakah:  Literally means "blessings". It refers to the experiencing of abundance in things which are apparently insignificant or little, both in value and amount.
Bid'ah:  Literally means "innovation". In Islam it refers to introducing new things into religion, which have no basis in the Quran or Sunnah, and in addition to this, to regard these new things as acts of Ibadah. A bid'ah is a major sin in Islam.
Dua ul-maghfirah:  Supplicating to Allah Ta'ala and asking Him for His forgiveness.
Ila:  Annulment of a marriage after the husband's sworn testimony to have refrained from sexual intercourse with his wife for a period of at least four months. For further details, refer to the chapter on ila.
Fard Literally means "compulsory". In Islam it refers to those acts and things which are compulsory on a Muslim. Abandoning or abstaining from a fard act is a major sin. Rejecting a fard act amounts to kufr.
Fatwa:  A formal legal opinion or verdict in Islamic law.
Ghayr mahram Refers to all those persons with whom marriage is permissible. Based on this, it is incumbent to observe purdah with all ghayr mahrams.
Ghibah:  Slander or backbiting.
Hayd Monthly periods or menstruation experienced by a woman.
Hajj:  Literally means "pilgrimage". In Islam it refers to the annual pilgrimage to Makkah.
Halal:  That which is lawful or permissible in Islam.
Haram:  That which is unlawful or prohibited in Islam.
Hûr:  Refers to the large-eyed women of jannah, promised to the believers.
Ibadah:  Literally means "worship". In Islam it refers to all those acts of worship which one renders to Allah Ta'ala.
Iddah:  A period of waiting during which a woman may not remarry after being widowed or divorced. For further details, refer to the chapter on ‘iddah.
Ihram:  Two pieces of unstitched cloth donned by the person performing hajj or umrah.
Jahannam:  Hell.
Jama'ah:  A group, party, community.
Jannah:  Paradise.
Kafir:  Literally means "a disbeliever". In Islam it refers to one who rejects Allah and does not believe in Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as the final messenger of Allah.
Kaffarah:  Literally means "penance, atonement, expiation". In Islamic law it refers to redemption from the omission of certain religious duties by a material donation or a ritual act. For further details, refer to the chapter on kaffarah.
Khula':  Divorce at the instance of the wife who must pay a compensation. For further details, refer to the chapter on khula'.
Kuffar:  Plural of kafir.
Li'an:  Sworn allegation of adultery committed by either husband or wife. For further details, refer to the chapter on li'an.
Madrasah:  Literally means "a school". Also used to refer to a religious school.
Maghrib:  Literally means "evening or sunset". Also refers to the time of sunset and the salat that is offered thereafter.
Mahr:  Dower or bridal money.
Mahram:  Refers to the person with whom marriage is not permissible and with whom strict purdah is not incumbent.
Mahrul mithl:  The dower or bridal money that is equal to or similar than that which was given to a girl's paternal grandmothers. For further details, refer to the chapter on mahrul mithl.
Masa'il:  Plural of mas'ala.
Mas'ala:  Literally means "an issue, problem or question". In Islamic jurisprudence, it refers to a rule or regulation.
Mustahab:  Literally means "preferable or desirable". Refers to that act which was carried out by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam or theSahabah occasionally. Carrying out these actions entails reward and leaving them out does not entail punishment.
Nafl:  Optional.
Nadhr:  A vow or solemn pledge.
Nifas:  Refers to the flowing of blood after child-birth.
Nikah:  Marriage.
Purdah:  An Urdu word meaning "seclusion". It is an equivalent of the Arabic word "hijab". Refers to the seclusion of women from strangers. There are different stages of purdah, the highest of which is that the woman should not come out of her home except for a valid Islamic reason.
Qada’:  Literally means "carrying out or fulfilling". In Islamic jurisprudence it refers to fulfilling or completing those duties that one may have missed out due to some reason or the other.
Qadiani:  A heretical sect which regards Mirza Ghulam Ahmad Qadiani as a prophet of Allah. Qadianis are regarded as disbelievers.
Qiblah:  The direction in which one faces when offering salat.
Qurbani:  Literally means "sacrifice". In Islam it refers to the sacrificing of animals solely for the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala on the day of  Idul-adha and the two days following it.
Rahmah:  Mercy.
Ramadan:  The ninth month of the Islamic calendar which is regarded as the most sacred month.
Salam:  Literally means "peace".
ShariAh:  The Islamic Law.
Shaytan:  Satan or the devil.
ShiAh:  A heretical sect found primarily in Iran.
Sunnat-e-Mu'akkadah Refers to those actions which Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam carried out continuously. It is a sin to leave out such a sunnah without any valid excuse.
Sunni:  Refers to those who belong to the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jama'ah. This term is generally used as an opposite to ShiAh.
Surmah:  Antimony. A black powdery substance that is applied to the eyes. It is sunnah to apply surmah.
Talaq:  Divorce.
Talaq-e-kinayah:  A divorce that is issued in vague terms without clearly uttering the words of talaq.
Talaq-e-sarih:  A divorce that is issued in clear terms without leaving any vagueness or doubt.
Talaqul ba'in:  A divorce which causes the annulment of the marriage. If a person wishes to retain his wife to whom he had issued a talaqul ba'in, he will have to remarry her, i.e. their nikah will have to be re-performed.
Talaqul mughallazah:  A divorce which not only causes the annulment of the marriage, but if the couple wish to remarry, the woman will have to marry another person first, when he divorces her or passes away, only then can she remarry her first husband.
Talaqur raj'i:  A revocable divorce.
For further details with regard to all the above forms of talaq, refer to the relevant chapters.
Ulama:  Plural of Alim.
Ummah:  Literally means "community or nation". Here it refers to the Muslim community and nation.
Wajib:  Literally means "obligatory". In Islamic jurisprudence it refers to that act which has not been established by an absolute proof. Leaving out a wajib without any valid reason makes one a fasiq and entails punishment.
Wali:  In the context of marriage or divorce, it refers to the legal guardian of a minor.
Walimah:  Refers to the feast that is organized after a marriage. It usually takes place after the bride and bride groom have spent a night together.
Wudû’:  Literally means "purity or cleanliness". In Islamic terminology it refers to the act of washing oneself before offering salat.

Zihar:  Likening one's wife to one's mother. It is a form of divorce. For further details, refer to the chapter on zihar.